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December 31st, 2009

Not too much going on around here.

The kids got sick on their 1/2 birthday (December 8th), and we’ve (the kids & Momma) have been trying to fight off the cold since. Daddy had it for a while, but he’s had it least of all of us. Lil James seems to be worst in that he’s been having fevers and his first cough! It’s lingering so long.

J&E still miss each other when they head off to bed each night, I think they like to be apart at naptime but Evelyn especially misses James at night. They are so cute giving each other kisses before bed each night, and great big hugs.

They are totally different kids in their rooms too-or even when they were together in the shared room. James has always been the one to jibber jabber and stay up late, and make some noise. Evelyn, even now is quiet. I’ve only ever once had her let me know she was awake (other than when she was a baby and cried) and it was one of the first days she was alone at nap in her room, she freaked out and locked herself in her bedroom (we have child things on the inside of their doors, but she wiggled her fingers in it and locked it!) otherwise, she sits and plays never getting out of her bed even! Until we come in and get her, or usually, until lil James runs in to try to lay on her bed.

She’s organized, even at two. She puts her bed all back in order in the morning and after nap. The dollies go here and the animals like this, then this goes here and that there, and the blankets next. It’s adorable!

James, on the other hand, he climbs on his dresser and moves his bed around, he opens the closets and eats the books (I think this is related to his wheat allergy). He lets you know he’s awake and having fun. Both wait though, until we get them, neither get upset just hang out doing their own thing.

My multiple club things keep me busy, though we are currently on a break month as far as meetings go, but we had our Holiday Party and then some fundraiser things to do. Meetings will start back up in January.

James continues to plug away at work. There is always a new deadline I keep telling him we need to take a vacation! Recharge! But it’s just not good timing and vacations cost money.

Lil James continues to have issues, we continue to have quite a horrible ones. As I had said to the Dr, we are good for a while and then its like it compounds or something and we are all not good again…. We’ll see the Dr. again in 3 weeks.

I know that I can not wait to have him back on wheat free foods. While the expensive of it doesn’t excite me, I know my lil guy certainly is different when he doesn’t eat wheat.

FINISHED THE POST 12/31 BUT THE ABOVE WAS STARTED AROUND 12/12 SO THERE IS A GAP OF TIME AND EVENTS

On a positive, James is finally going to bed without whining. He used to cry/whine for usually just about 15 seconds, when we closed his bedroom door. We thought the nightlight was too bright (now that he’s back in the other room) or he missed Evelyn, we didn’t know. But, since Christmas he’s been doing well. We can now put his music box thingy on the dresser, instead of on his bed and he doesn’t whine. Not sure why, perhaps his Croc Zoobie.

Evelyn got a turtle, which she loves much too but she’s gone to bed properly since being born. James, he’s always had some sort of struggle.

Te kids had a great holiday, the parents, OK. Things happened which made the holiday a bit of a downer, and will be something that changes our life hopefully not too much, but changes nonetheless.

J&E made out though still from Grampy & Pam.

We got to see Odin, my brother son on Christmas Day when we spent the day at my Uncle Randy’s place (he passed away just over a year ago and my brother’s been staying there till its sold) and that was nice.

I’m not sure Odin took the J&E so much, though E was quite lovey to him.
However, he took to Uncle James quickly and they had fun with Odins new toys.

James just wanted to copy Odin, and even today, he’s learnt a new string of words from him “NO! Waittt!!”

My birthday was a bit of a fiasco. My gift didn’t arrive, even though James paid for extra shipping to have it here. Then it did come the next day - not sure how, if the person who it was delivered to (it was at 1pm when J&E and I were sitting eating lunch, so not to us) returned it to us, or if the FedEx person got it back and brought it here. Anyhow, they were supposed to ship a new one to arrive Saturday, but at 6pm on my bday (Thursday) emailed James to say oh, wait, you have to pay us $6 to resend it. Ugh Then something wasn’t in the pkg like it was meant to.

We tried to eat out at 3 places, but they were all closed! James fell with lil James in his arms, thankfully he instinctively propped James up in the air and took the fall all on his hip and elbow. Poor guy. Should have sued the restaurant!

As we look to 2010 I am thankful, blessed and accepting.
Accepting things I can’t change, embracing the ones I can and hugging my family tight. James, James & Evelyn fullfill me and focusing on that is healthy. We have our health, a roof, a good life, and while we might not have everything we want in/out of life - yet, it too is what keeps us a float and driving forward. As do those smiles on my kids faces and a hug from James. There’s no where else I want to be, but with them.

There are many things I’d change in life if all I had to do is a wave a wand and say “xyz!!”.
Most of them revolve around family and friendships.

Truth is, we are all over now. My own family has moved away, or I moved from them to start with. But this is what we do, we are meant to find someone to love and move on. To persevere and make a new life, hopefully just a bit better and richer (in life not $) than your own upbringing was.

What could be better?!? Drumsticks & Cars!

So from our house to yours, Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! May 2010 bring you and your family much joy and happiness, hug your kiddies and family tight. At the end of the day, they are what you have and what you have with them, is what you are willing to put in and they are willing to put in too and realize that it’s not always equal. There are highs and lows and I can hope and work and strive towards highs, but at the end of the day, you have to accept it is what it is, and know and be OK with yourself that you gave enough by your own standards.

My 2010 word is Accept. So I reflect on that now, and I’m going to work towards accepting, and loving. Looking forward, without regret, to the future, and leaving the past in the past. For myself, my family and especially for J&E. And I’m going to try to be more accepting of help offered too. It’s something I take on too much, and have a do it all attitude when all I’d really like is help. It’s healthy to ask for help.

This isn’t aimed at anyone in particular or anything of that nature, just a general heart2heart pouring out.

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